Cancer Free (Sturm und Drang)

The Road to Recovery

The Day After the Operation – Tubes Everywhere

I want to start this post with an apology in case I repeat anything I have written in my previous two posts. Surprisingly, two weeks of opioids and painkillers aren’t conducive to a well-formed memory. “Why don’t you go back and read the posts then, Dan?” you may ask. I don’t waste my time reading such drivel; I leave that to my poor readers. On a more serious note, there’s something about not remembering what I said which makes me nervous about going back. They were also written when I was in a dark place – getting very little sleep on the ward and struggling to adjust to a new life, one of diabetes and fighting back from major surgery… a fight which is still hamstringing me now. I have been pleasantly surprised by the number of views the blog has been getting in my absence, though. A few days ago I looked at the figures, and it had received 160 views that day. Not too bad considering I’ve fallen off the face of the earth over the past month!

It is funny that before the surgery I claimed I’d be offline for a fortnight or so. Technically, I wasn’t wrong. There have been posts since the surgery. I really did believe I would be back to full activity after two weeks… a laughable claim, really. Turns out that it isn’t quite so easy recovering from a 13-hour surgery. In my defence, I was starkly warned that a full removal was very unlikely. The fact that you could have your entire pancreas removed was actually news to me, news that I would only properly understand about a week after the operation. I’d been told many times during that first week what had happened, and probably even regurgitated the words to some unsuspecting nurses who were just trying to clean my wounds, or even to another patient in a bed next to mine, perhaps. “How are you feeling today, Daniel?” They’d ask. “Well, I’ve had my entire pancreas removed and don’t know if I still have cancer or not.” That’s one way to kill a conversation. I don’t remember such a conversation, but I know myself well enough to know that I would have told anyone who came within 6 feet of me what had happened.

The First Time I Managed to Walk Outside – About 5 Days After Surgery

The meaning of the words only landed about a week later for me, though. I’d been sitting there at night struggling to sleep when suddenly I started saying to myself, “wait, my entire pancreas was removed? Is that even possible?” The fact that I was now fully diabetic hadn’t occurred to me yet as I was attached to a machine which measured my blood sugar every hour and administered insulin to balance it out. Essentially, the machine was acting as the pancreas I had lost. The machine wasn’t leaving the hospital with me, though. That reality wouldn’t dawn on me for yet another week, when I finally got taken off the machines and had to deal with it head-on. Unfortunately, my first stint as a free man after being discharged from the hospital was short-lived.

I first got out of the hospital about 10 days post-surgery. Though I was incredibly happy to be out of the hospital and back in the comfort of my own home, the relief didn’t last long. That night, as I went to lie down in my bed for the first time, I felt a wave of sickness come over me. After several more attempts to lay flat, I realised that it was the act of laying down that was the catalyst. As soon as I lay back, it felt like my stomach was sitting in my mouth. I’d barely slept in the hospital and felt like I was suffering from a form of PTSD, which I probably was, I think. During those 10 days in the hospital, I felt like I had developed an extremely unhealthy association with sleep – one of me twisting and turning in a hospital bed with tubes coming out of every part of me. Some nights I’d sat there crying whilst 3 nurses tried to console me. “How much more can I give? I don’t even understand if I’ve got rid of the cancer and even if I have, it’ll just come back anyway.” I was inconsolable on several occasions. The nurses sometimes seemed confused, as if what had happened to me was a miracle. Maybe it is. I’m still trying to decide. I don’t think they quite understood what road I have ahead of me still, though, even if it is incredible what was achieved during the surgery.

That isn’t to say that I’m not incredibly grateful to the surgeon for what he did. I’ve since had the histology results from the operation. This is where the lab analyses all of the things taken out during the operation and determines how successful it was. They do this by analysing whether good margins were achieved – i.e. whether they have taken all of the infected areas out of the body, with the inclusion of a margin, assuring that any lingering cancer cells should also have been removed. After analysing the samples from my operation, they determined that good margins were achieved and that the whole tumour has been removed. That is amazing news, of course. It was confirmed that I did indeed have pancreatic cancer, and they now believe that the cancer formed because of a cyst which had grown on the pancreas, allowing the tumour to then take hold. Two-thirds of my large bowel was also removed, as well as the bile duct, spleen and some of the stomach. Forty-five lymph nodes were removed, with two of them testing positive for infection in the lab. On top of all of this, I also had two major arteries reconstructed. The reconstruction of these arteries is why the large bowel had to be removed – something to do with the blood flow meant that the bowel had to be taken out. The lab confirmed that there was no cancer found during the testing of the bowel, which is encouraging.

All of this is very good news. The problem is that pancreatic cancer is extremely aggressive. Although I may be cancer free for now, in terms of having no tumours visible on a scan, it does not mean that new tumours won’t form or haven’t started forming in other organs. I’m entering a period of 5 years where I have to ‘Live With Cancer’, as the surgeon put it. That’s Ok, but it still takes some adjusting to. It feels like being in a strange limbo where I know I am extremely lucky to be here but also struggle to feel contented in it at all times.

Taken During My 12 Hours at Home, Before Returning to Hospital

Anyway, back to the hospital story. The next morning, after throwing up all night and getting hardly any sleep, I made my way to the nearest A&E on the advice of the non-emergency contact line 111. There I was put on a drip and left in a room with my mum for hours. Eventually, the surgical team came to see me and asked what operation I’d had. When I told them, they barely believed me. It turns out that getting extensive surgery isn’t that common, especially when you’re in your 20’s. She immediately set out on a path of getting me transferred back to Manchester hospital where I’d had the procedure, so she did not have to deal with this absolute mess of a patient. I was happy – I absolutely hate this hospital. I’m sure I’ve spoken about it by name on the blog before, but I’m going to keep it under wraps today so no one can accuse me of being a ‘hater’. I will give you some clues – it is located in Crewe and its name rhymes with ‘Clayton’… I’m sure you’ll never work it out.

My second stint in the hospital lasted 7 days and was pretty painful. This time around I experienced several uncomfortable situations. I had a pipe pushed up my nose and into my stomach to help remove excess liquid from the digestive tract. I had a catheter put in when I was fully awake – the first time I had one put in was during the operation when I was out cold, which was much more convenient. Then, I sat and watched as the wound on my abdomen started to leak so much blood that I needed two blood transfusions. And finally, I got put on a ward where my bed was directly in front of the toilet, and I got to sit watching as everyone on the ward made their way in and out of the toilet – what a joy to see (and smell).

Extracting Stomach Fluid – Not My Best Angle

I won’t bore you with all of the minute details of my hellish experiences in hospital over those 2 stints, but there are a few things which feel worth discussing. Firstly, the severe bleeding from the wound. The surgeons were incredibly worried about it as they thought it might have been one of the reconstructed arteries leaking. I was rushed to the CT area for an emergency scan. After having the scan, 3 senior surgeons rushed into the room and asked the clerks to give us a few minutes alone. The head surgeon approached me, staring me dead in the eyes. He put his hand on my arm and started speaking to me in a very serious tone. “Look at me – how do you feel? Not mentally but physically? Only you can know if you are feeling unusual and we may have to make some critical decisions over the next few hours.” If I wasn’t worried at the sight of blood pouring out of the wound, I was worried now. They told me that I may need emergency surgery that night, depending on what the results of the scan said. Luckily, that didn’t happen. It turns out that the skin was bleeding and that blood was building up under the wound. Two cavities had then opened up on either side of my stomach, and the buildup of blood was leaking out of them. It wasn’t pretty. They’re still healing to this day. Nurses come to my house every day to take pictures, pack the wounds with fresh material and then change the bandages. The wounds need to be packed to prevent them from healing too quickly. When this happens, the top layer of skin heals quicker than the inside of the cavity, allowing a pocket under the skin to form where infections can build up. It is all pretty gross. I have to say, watching someone use a little plastic stick to push a piece of material into your abdomen is pretty uncomfortable. One of the cavities is 3cm deep… gross.

Now, the blood transfusions. There are a few things about blood transfusions that are creepy. The most obvious one is the fact that someone else’s blood is being pushed into your veins, and you are sitting there watching it happen. It is an amazing thing, of course, but that doesn’t make it any less creepy a concept. I sat wondering who’s blood I was being blessed with. Maybe I’d start liking different things or having someone else’s memories come the morning. Maybe they were much smarter than me and had big business ideas harboured in their mind which they were now passing on to me. Or maybe they have some sort of disease that wasn’t picked up in whatever screening they do before they let someone give blood. That probably won’t happen, although I did read a few articles about people seeking compensation for that exact thing happening when I was in hospital… Just put it to the back of your mind, it probably won’t happen to you. It didn’t – as far as I know. I haven’t had any big, out-of-character business ideas either.

The other thing that is disconcerting about a blood transfusion is that the bags of blood are kept very cold to stop the blood going off. Not only were they very cold, but they were being infused into my veins over a period of 3.5 hours, and I needed 2 bags. That meant I had to sit there for 7 hours whilst this blood transfusion was going on. Due to the temperature, you can feel the blood going into you, and it gives you these strange chills. My body was occasionally shivering because it was making me so cold, and they didn’t start them until 23:30 at night, so it was happening through the entire night. I hardly slept during my hospital stay anyway, so it didn’t affect my sleep, but it made for a very uncomfortable night. I put my headphones in and tried to relax, but the nurses were coming to prick my finger every hour to check my blood sugars, so relaxing wasn’t that high on the agenda. I also still had the catheter in and every time I moved, I felt the tube pull. As a result, I lay there trying to be as still as possible, shivering and wondering how close to the next finger prick I was. If your life really does flash before your eyes when you die, this is my request to my life to leave these memories out – I’d rather not relive them, thank you.

There is so much more to talk about – the recovery since leaving the hospital, how I’m feeling now, the next steps, dealing with diabetes. I can’t fit it all into one post and considering it has taken me 3 days to even write this, I don’t really have the energy. I’m hoping to get back to posting regularly, but it may only be once a week for a while. Recovering from major surgery really is tough – I feel proud of myself when I manage to eat a full meal without heaving or manage to get through an entire afternoon without accidentally falling asleep for 3 hours on the sofa. My energy is at an all time low and I just feel completely zapped. Things have gotten better over the past few weeks since leaving the hospital, but every time I take a step forward in one department, it feels like another one pulls me back.

Last night, as I was preparing to get in bed, I started feeling extremely itchy all over my body. After inspecting my skin a little closer, I realised that I had a rash forming all over my body. It has been causing me problems ever since. It is the most recent example of life seeming to enjoy kicking me while I’m down. It means that I should have plenty to write about over the next few weeks, though, so that’s something. I’m sorry for going missing for so long and thank you to everyone who has reached out on the blog and beyond. I’m absolutely terrible at answering at the minute, so please don’t be offended if I haven’t gotten back to you. I will make my way through the comments on the blog soon, I promise.

Thanks for sticking with me and I promise there will be a steady stream of content coming over the next few weeks. I’ve got loads of complaining to do!

26 thoughts on “Cancer Free (Sturm und Drang)

  1. Chris says:

    Hey Dan, so pleased you’ve done a blog for us avid readers, we’ve missed you!
    Of course we understand why you haven’t written and have heard the highs and lows of the past couple of weeks!
    You’ve been through so much, as the pics show.
    Suppose it’ll take time to get over such a big op and it’s difficult to be patient but with your determination Dan I know you’ll get there!
    Take care Dan and moan for England, who cares! (Well maybe Anna lol)
    Chris xxx

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    1. Hey Chris. I absolutely love your “moan for England” comment… perhaps I should start a new blog series based around it! That’ll give me the encouragement to start writing properly again I’m sure 😂. I feel like I could moan forever about diabetes honestly! Thank you for your comment and your ongoing support. I also loved receiving the wedding card from you – what a lovely surprise!xx


  2. Lynne Jean Eardley says:

    Daniel, you are truly inspirational! We all get so fed up and wrapped up with our own aches and pains, reading your blog really puts us wimps into our places!
    We were driving across the level crossings the other day and we both shouted, “There’s Daniel!” we were so happy to see you!! We speak about you and your family every time we drive past your house, so, in a nutshell we say Hi every day.
    You are incredibly brave, going through so much and yet still trying your best to continue writing and staying positive.
    Thank you for allowing us to share this amazing life of yours. Yes, young man you are amazing. xx
    sorry if this is rubbish but I can’t stop blubbing and hiccuping!!!

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    1. Aw thank you Lynne. It was lovely talking to your husband again after so long and one of his recommendations for the wedding cake supplier ended up coming good for us, so we have a lot to thank him for! Thank you so much for continuing to read the blog – I’m sure it isn’t exactly ‘fun’ reading all the time so I really do appreciate it xx


  3. Kristen says:

    Daniel, it’s wonderful to read one of your amazing posts! Of course I don’t know you in real life, but I feel I have gotten to know you so well reading your stories and I have been sincerely worried about you. You are an incredible person who has overcome so much. Like I said in a comment a while ago, you have taught me so much about pancreatic cancer. My mother in law had it, but passed away on July 12th. She didn’t seem to suffer at the end and I am truly thankful for that.

    I hope you are starting to feel better a little every day and know that I am routing for you from the US. Everything always feels really overwhelming when we first start adjusting to something new, but starts to feel more and more normal as the days pass. I hope this is the case for you and your new normal. Rest easy. I hope to read one of your posts again sometime soon.

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    1. Hey Kristen. Thank you for commenting again!

      I do wonder if it’s strange for people who learn so much about me, yet I know so little about them; so it’s always nice to see comments like this and for me to learn a little about my reader :).

      Once again, I’m sorry to hear about your poor mother in law. It is relieving to hear that she didn’t seem to suffer in the end – that’s probably the most comfort we can derive from that final period of life.

      Thank you so much for your lovely words. I am getting there, I’d say, it’s just taking so much longer than I ever thought it would! You’re totally right about things feeling overwhelming at first, but we do find ways to adjust. Eventually it all just starts feeling normal! Injecting insulin is just part of my life now, along with the constant digestion niggles I seem to have – I’m hoping the latter will go with time but we shall see!

      Thanks for sticking with the blog and for your lovely comment. Your words on adjusting and finding a new normal have really helped me as I make my way back through all these comments. It’s really made me smile x


      1. Kristen says:

        Thank you for your response!! Honestly my mother in law was in her 70s and she was very accepting of her passing. She had lost her husband 4 years ago to leukemia and watched her son, my husband, go through cancer treatment last year for lymphoma. She was so tired and wanted to join her husband. She said the first thing she wanted was to have ice cream with him when they were reunited. She would have been thrilled to know that someone like you was out there beating this cancer and living a truly extraordinary life.

        Loved seeing the post about your wedding! So very happy for you and your wife looked stunning! I wish you both a long long life of love and happiness. What a gorgeous day it must have been.

        Your body has been through so much. It will take time to recover, but it will. It recovers a little everyday. Keep up the good fight! There are many more good days ahead.

        I remember when my husband was first diagnosed I couldn’t even imagine how we would cope with treatment and caring for 3 kids, but it became a new normal we adjusted to and it was ok. But man did life feel so darn overwhelming at first.


  4. Kate says:

    Good to hear from you I have been searching on twitter etc as was getting concerned but I think I saw you in the village the other day my husband thought I’d lost it when I started shouting there’s Dan he’s ok !! I’ve just had my 3 month check marker at 14 bloods etc normal so carry on for another 3 months living the dream 😁take care xx

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    1. Aw I’m glad you saw me and that settled your thoughts! I need to get better with Twitter… I used to sit on it and do a little bit every day but I’ve fallen out of doing it now. I’ve just been trying to get better honestly – easier said than done after a surgery like mine! Glad to hear you’re clear for another 3 months. Hopefully you can forget about it and just enjoy life until the next scan 😄 x


  5. kevreid69 says:

    It is great to see you back with your posts. The fact that you are able to do this brilliant factual blog and still show humour when you have and are probably still having a traumatic time shows me that you are on the way to recovery physically and mentally. Both may not be as they were before your diagnosis but the strength that you possess even though you may not feel it right now is what will get you through this. I am sure that life will be different but I am equally sure that you will navigate your way through your new normal and day by day you will acclimatise your mind and body to this. You have strength beyond words and that will carry you through the hard times. Looking forward to seeing you and Anna getting married and moving forward positively with your future. All the best Dan. x

    Sent from my iPhone


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    1. Aw thank you for such a thoughtful and encouraging comment. It was really lovely sharing the wedding day with you! I was so happy to finally meet you, even if I was totally rushed off my feet all day. I’m sure I’ll be seeing you again in the future xx


      1. kevreid69 says:

        Thanks for your reply Dan. Hope you and Anna are doing well and relaxing after all the wedding planning. The wedding was everything you would ever want a wedding to be. It had it all, laughter tears, great people and great food I would gladly eat every day for the rest of my life. Who knew I would like beef cheeks so much. Fabulous. You and Anna are so well suited and compliment each other so well. The handbag gift was a great touch. I think I was crying more than the bride or grooms mothers 😂 So genuinely full of love. Thanks again for inviting me. I loved it. Good luck Dan with the chemo mop up. I am really rooting for you and Anna. Take care.


    1. Thank you, Carolyn! It’s been much tougher than I expected but I’m still here – that’s all that matters. Hope you’re doing ok. Can’t believe my dad is retiring this week! I’m sure he won’t last a week 🙊


  6. It’s great to see you back here and doing well! And welcome to the wonderfully weird world of remission! I’m glad they’re taking good care of you at the hospital, even though it sounds like quite the intense and crazy process. Hopefully recovery becomes a smoother road soon!

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    1. It really is a weird world isn’t it? I feel like I’m having more of an identity crisis than ever with it! I feel like I can’t even claim to be in remission until a doctor tells me that’s where I’m at, and I guess they’re waiting until after the mop up chemotherapy to say such things? Who knows… Recovery has definitely been been rough but over time, it is getting better. Just taking far longer than I’d like! Hope you’re doing well x

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      1. Recovery is bizarre. I remember the day my oncologist told me I was cancer free so I shouldn’t worry. Then in nearly the same breath he said the cancer could return in any part of my body at any time. Hah! So much for not worrying at all. I actually laughed when he did that and said, “Ah, but I shouldn’t worry?” and then I think maybe he realized a bit how ridiculous life is from our side of the desk. I’ve been dealing with a few weird health things post-cancer that I tend to blame on the toll chemo took on my immune system, but nothing too serious. I’m mostly healthy and happy, so I can’t ask for much more. I hope your recovery goes smoothly and they only give you good news from here on out!


  7. Welcome back, my friend! 👋🏻👋🏻👋🏻
    You look just great with a tube. And the rashes? I had it a week after my breast tumor operation. My doctor said it’s because of the strong medicine(s) I had to take.

    You’re going to be fine and dandy. Sending hugs to you. 🤗🤗🤗


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